About me…
Hi, I’m Minnie…
…a therapist specializing in supporting Millennial and Generation X women who feel burnt out, overwhelmed, like they've lost themselves somewhere along the way.
Many of the women I work with look like they're coping from the outside, yet inside they feel exhausted, disconnected from themselves and unsure who they are anymore.
I work with those who identify as women at all life stages, and the unique challenges, expectations and duties that come with being a woman - themes that arise time and again when working with women in their 30s, 40s, and 50s are that of burnout, feeling lost or that they’re behind…as a woman in my late 30’s I can certainly relate to this!
Burnout is often associated with the workplace and being physical but it can also be emotional and mental, from chronic stress, parenting, caregiving or perfectionism, it’s often invisible, on paper you look like ‘you’ve got it all together’ whilst in reality you’re living in survival mode.
"I don't recognize myself, I don’t know who I am anymore”…I hear this all the time. You may have spent years looking after everyone else, meeting everyone else’s expectations, being the ‘good girl’ that you’ve lost touch with what you really want.
We were sold a lie…that if you did everything you were supposed to do then you would get everything you wanted on the ‘timeline’. When you find yourself feeling behind, comparing your life to that of friends or social media, your career, relationships, fertility, finances, motherhood, living situation, can all come off unfavourably.
I work with mothers, yet I’m not a mother…
I understand if this a deal-breaker for some, lived experience is important…but it’s not everything. As a therapist I’m trained to put my own experiences aside and enter your frame of reference, with empathy, compassion and non-judgement…I have always been passionate about supporting mothers, as a former nanny, primary school teacher and aunty. As well as being informed by my personal experience of many things mothers experience such as anxiety, depression, burnout and loss, I have undertaken extra training in perinatal psychotherapy as well as pregnancy and baby loss.
I support women in matrescence (the ongoing process of becoming a mother) and the often distressing, overwhelming and conflicting feelings that come with this - the mental load, mum guilt, rage, relationship and identity shifts.
Whether you are a mother or not, it’s my experience that women tend to take on caregiving roles (or have these put upon them), and messages from childhood and society such as ‘be a good girl’, ‘be perfect’ or ‘please others' can result in us trying to live up to other’s often unrealistic expectations, chipping away at our self-esteem and sense of identity, leaving us feeling like we’re failing or that there’s something wrong with us, or feeling unworthy of having needs, let alone being able to meet them.
My approach…
I work relationally, bringing my authentic self to our collaborative partnership - I am not a robot or a nodding, blank-faced therapist. I will help you to connect with yourself, your feelings, your mind-body connection, by modelling this myself and by empathically experiencing with you.
My approach is trauma-informed and integrative, meaning I draw on several evidence-informed approaches depending on what you need, rather than expecting you to fit one model of therapy.
Person-centred Therapy
Helping you to reconnect with yourself without judgement.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Helping you stop struggling against difficult thoughts and move towards the life you want.
Transactional Analysis (TA)
Understanding lifelong patterns and relationships.
Attachment Theory
Understanding how early relationships influence adult relationships and self-worth.
Polyvagal Theory
Understanding how chronic stress and trauma affects your nervous system.
Qualifications + training…
Frequently Asked Questions
Still have questions? Take a look at the FAQ or reach out anytime. If you’re feeling ready to book a free online consultation click the link below.
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I work with those who identify as women at all life stages, and the unique challenges, expectations and duties that come with being a woman.
I work with a lot of mums as they navigate matrescence (the ongoing process of becoming a mother) and the often distressing, overwhelming and conflicting feelings that come with this. Whether you are a mother or not, it’s my experience that women tend to take on caregiving roles (or have these put upon them), and messages from childhood and society such as ‘be a good girl’, ‘be perfect’ or ‘please others' can result in us trying to live up to other’s often unrealistic expectations, chipping away at our self-esteem and sense of identity, leaving us feeling like we’re failing or that there’s something wrong with us, or feeling unworthy of having needs, let alone being able to meet them.
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I believe no one size fits all and that’s why I trained as an integrative counsellor, meaning I can draw upon many different modalities and theories to best suit you.
My integrative approach draws from humanistic person-centred therapy, psychodynamic attachment theory, transactional analysis (TA) and inner child therapy, cognitive and behavioural acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), along with polyvagal theory and neuroscience which bring in the lens of the nervous system - something which clients often say was the missing puzzle piece!
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I am a fully qualified, insured counsellor and registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and I abide by their code of ethical practice.
I have undertaken extensive training in addition to my core qualification. I am committed to ongoing continuing professional development. You can see my qualifications and CPD here.
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I am a registered member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) and abide by their ethical framework which can be found here.
I am enhanced DBS checked.
I undertake monthly clinical supervision.
I am fully qualified and insured with Balens.
I am registered with the Information Comissioner’s Office (ICO) and abide by all GDPR Data Laws.
I undertake regular safeguarding training.
I have emergency first aid training.
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You can book a FREE 20-minute online consultation where we can meet each other, discuss what’s bringing you to counselling and you can ask any questions you may have so that we can see if I’m the right therapist for you and your therapy goals.
Should you wish to go ahead after this you can arrange your first session then or get back to me via email when you’re ready.